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 September 2005 Dear Georgia, I wonder if you can help me? My partner is a lovely person whom I love very much, but he likes to make jokes. This may not seem bad, but all of his jokes are degrading and demeaning and when he makes them it really upsets me. He has been doing this more and more lately but he does not seem to notice that it really upsets me even when I tell him. Is there any spell I can use to let him know that a joke at someone’s expense (mine) is not funny and that when I tell him it is not me pretending I don't like it (he laughs even more which upsets me more but he still can't see it). Thank you. Kind regards, Patricia, Northants. Dear Patricia, People who joke at others expense tend to want to draw attention away from themselves and their own faults or insecurities. This is sad, not only for you, but also because your partner feels the way he does about your objections. One way to deal with this is head on; when he does it: 1) Stop the conversation and ask him if he is ok? 2) Ignore his attention seeking acts and change the direction of the conversation to something completely different. 3) At a time when he hasn’t said anything rude, talk to him, bring it up in conversation seriously and explain what the consequences will be if he doesn’t stop. One of the reasons he laughs more is that he is nervous in confrontation with you, so you need to speak to him at a time when no-one is else is watching. Ensure that you do this as calmly as possible so he doesn’t feel the need to protect himself with a joke. Magic can help you get up the courage to speak to him and find the correct path to keep yourself happy and well. I need to warn you though that sometimes, finding the path you want and the ability to say what is needed can leave you in a totally new situation, so be ready for changes in your life. For this spell collect: 1 Bloodstone 1 piece of turquoise 1 piece of paper 1 blue pen 1 piece of white string During the full moon, write these words on the piece of paper (or something similar that you feel comfortable with). One stone for courage and one stone for voice, One moon to help me make the right choice. Let me be guided to speak from my heart, And help me to make a loving new start. Words that hurt and words that sting, Be gone now, don’t leave a thing. Love that was once always without pain, Return to my side and rest here again. Now place the Bloodstone and the turquoise in the centre of the paper and wrap it up, tie the parcel with your piece of white string and put this pouch in your pocket or purse. Carry it with you for as long as the problem takes to subside. I’m sure this will improve your situation, so keep us posted on how things go for you. Blessed Be Georgia :: Letters Archive |